What You Can Learn From Your Dating Failures


Every time that you experience a dating failure, it can feel like all of your flirting efforts and emotional investment were a total waste of time. But if you tweak your perspective, you will be able to see that every date that fails to blossom into an intimate connection – that grows into a full-on love relationship – is actually a blessing in disguise.

You can learn a surprising amount about yourself, your values and self-worth, from dating failures and failed relationships.

The Dating Journey

For most people, the journey of love begins with flirting with someone you fancy, and arranging a date. If all goes well, perhaps there’s another date, followed by many more…that lead to the start of a relationship.

Others though, may experience endless first dates that never seem to progress to a real connection or a budding relationship. Being stuck in a perpetual one-date cycle can certainly feel soul destroying, and make you question yourself. Courageously exploring what each romantic failure is teaching you is essential if you want to learn how to attract lasting love into your life.

On Chat2Date you can easily connect with like-minded singles all over the UK, and explore potential dating possibilities. You’ll be able to practice your flirting techniques and communication skills, in prep for taking the next steps on your dating journey.

Turn Dating Failure To Success

Before you can become successful at dating, you need to focus on your past failures, and to learn from your mistakes. Putting the blame on the other person – for not seeing how awesome you are, why you’re such a catch, or all of your unique qualities – isn’t going to result in you getting lucky on your next date. You need to examine what went wrong, and why the blossoming connection dissolved on the first date. To find the answers to these questions, you must look within.

You may be subconsciously giving out a message of emotional unavailability, or exercising negative self-beliefs. Maybe you’re bombarding your date with OTT attention and affection, or acting too casual and cool for your own good. Being too quick to get intimately physical, on a first meet, is also likely to end up as a dating disappointment.

Identify your core issue and mistakes, and take responsibility for not repeating the cycle again.

Spot Dating Red Flags

When you’re keen to form an emotional bond with someone, it’s important to pay attention to red flags. It’s easy to overlook things that can potentially become an issue down the line, when you’re wearing rose-tinted spectacles. If you notice a behaviour pattern that’s familiar to past experiences, pretending that it doesn’t exist is a guaranteed way to get caught up in yet another repetitive cycle that catapults you into heartbreak.

Learn from your past dating failures, and be prepared not to compromise on anything that you consider to be a deal-breaker. If you settle for less than you deserve, you will never be happy.

Level Up

Every dating failure gives you a chance to level up. Yes, rejection can be tough, but picking yourself up and learning from the experience will get you closer to finding your perfect love match.

To level up, you need to be honest with yourself and to understand your dating style, needs and wants:

Being too needy for love is detrimental to your dating success. While it’s good to have expectations when you go out on a first date, allowing your emotions to take the lead can end up with you playing out a fantasy relationship in your head.

To avoid making a dating mistake, be honest and upfront about your expectations. If they don’t match those of the person that you’re dating, it’s crucial that you accept the fact and move on to dating someone else.

Ditch the illusions and fake stories that you’ve previously told interested parties, to influence their desire for you. Letting go of being someone you’re not means that you can fully embody your unique personality, and the traits and qualities that make you special.

When you level up, you won’t want to be anything but your authenticate self. You also won’t want to date anyone who isn’t genuine and authentic, as you just won’t feel truly comfortable in their company.

Embrace Being Single

There’s nothing wrong with being single – for a while, or a long time. You don’t have to be lonely just because you’re on your own. Being single gives you an opportunity to explore your passions and personal interests, which is something that many people tend to forget about once they form a relationship.

Embrace being single and commit to dating yourself at least once a week. Spend quality time doing things that you love and that bring you joy. Overcome loneliness by chatting to singles on the popular Chat2Date social network. You never know… you could strike up a connection with someone who ends up being the love of your life.


5 Signs That Prove You’re Ready For A Relationship

A love relationship is a major commitment that impacts on your whole life. Are you ready for a relationship! It requires equal measures of putting in effort, good communication and compromise. If you’re single and thinking about taking the plunge into the dating pool, chatting and flirting with thousands of people just like you, on the UK’s favourite chat line, is a great place to start your search for your perfect love match.

As a 24/7 service, Chat2date connects singles all over the UK who want to practice communication skills and flirting techniques, and to arrange dates. You can send and receive messages, and pull someone on the phone! It’s a great place to socialise, and to contemplate swapping your single life for a romantic loving relationship.

  1. You’re Not Looking For Someone To ‘Complete’ You

You know you’re probably ready to end your single days when you feel content just as you are. You don’t need a romantic partner to be ‘complete’ you because you already have all the self-love that you require. Feel comfortable in your skin and have embraced your imperfections and flaws, and you love spending time in your own company. For you, a relationship offers an opportunity to share your love and world with someone wonderful who reciprocates.

If you’re deeply longing for a romantic partner as a means to escape loneliness, you’re not ready to make the commitment that a successful relationship requires. Chatting to like-minded singles on our private, discreet and totally anonymous phone chat service will fill your companionship void and prep you for potential romance when you’re ready.

  1. You’re Emotional Baggage Free

All adults that have dated, had a romantic relationship, or have been married or divorced will have emotional baggage as a souvenir of the experience. If you’re weighed down by insecurities, and lack self-confidence and/or self-esteem, you’re really not in the best shape to begin a new relationship.

It’s essential to leave your exes in the past, and to let go of thoughts of ‘what might have been’, if you want to find new love. You’ll also need to do the inner work, and to release emotional baggage. Once you’re free of the past you can move forwards towards dating and commitment.

  1. You Understand The Importance Of Give And Take

If you’ve been single for a while chances are that you’ve developed a few habits that could compromise a new love relationship. Be honest with yourself about how flexible you are with your time, energy and personal and social commitments. For a connection to blossom into a relationship, you need to get the balance right, and to build a strong foundation that is based on reciprocity and good communication.

It’s important to learn how to communicate effectively, and to express your feelings and emotions. If you have a protective wall around your heart, the emotions that are often openly expressed in a relationship will make you want to reinforce your barriers. Chatting and texting with other singles is an excellent way to practice give and take, and to gradually start taking down the wall around your heart, one brick at a time.

  1. Your Heart Is Open

Ask yourself how you feel about the prospect of sharing yourself and your life with someone else. If you’re ready to find love, your open heart will swell and open wider at the thought, and you’ll experience a pleasing warm sensation and excitement.

If the idea of a relationship makes you feel uncomfortable or uneasy, your heart will feel tight and small. It’s telling you that you have emotional baggage to dump before you can unlock it to be ready to love.

  1. You’re Happy And You Know It

The secret to relationship success is to be happy just as you are, right this moment, in your life. If you can find inner peace regardless of chaos going on around you, you’ve achieved the level of serenity and harmony that will benefit all of your relationships – both romantic and platonic.

Up your happy quota by chatting with friendly Chat2Date members and have fun flirting, dating and getting to know each other. The happier you feel, the closer you are to being totally ready for the love relationship of your dreams.



How To Make Valentine’s Day Magical

St Valentine’s Day is the annual celebration that honours martyred saints, and the experience of love. Although February 14th is traditionally the most popular day of the year for loved up couples to make an effort by displaying affection – with gifts of flowers, chocolate, and novelty items – you don’t have to be in a relationship to enjoy a special and magical Valentine’s Day.

Feel Good About You
For some singles, Valentine’s Day can feel like an event that they’re not invited to attend. Although the day of love is generally commercially aimed to grab the attention of couples, it’s actually a feel good day for everyone to enjoy!
Instead of wallowing in self-pity because you don’t have a huge pile of cards and gifts to open on Valentine’s Day, change your mindset and focus on feeling good about yourself.
Learn how to romance yourself by practicing self-love. Look in the mirror, beyond your perceived flaws and imperfections, and admire your inner beauty, confidence, wisdom, kindness, intelligence, and other qualities that define you.
Treat your body like temple, and feast on healthy nutritious foods that boost your energy. Cleanse your skin and hair with luxurious self-care products that are heavenly scented. Dress up in your favourite fashionable finery that makes you feel confident about your self-image. It’s important to practice these feel good habits every day, and not to reserve them just for Valentine’s Day.

Get Ready To Mingle With Singles
If you’re single and interested in becoming romantically involved, you’ll need to open your heart to love. If you’re nursing a broken heart, be gentle with yourself and don’t be in a rush to meet someone new. Unless your heart has healed, and you’ve let go of hurt and emotional baggage, you’ll simply attract a repeat of the painful experience.
Before mingling with other singles, be honest with yourself. Ask yourself: Are you really baggage free? Do you want to meet someone for a casual hook up? Or are you looking for real love? Knowing what you want is beneficial in you not wasting your time, or anyone else’s.

Practice Your Flirting Skills
Whether you’re a serial flirter or it’s been a while since you indulged in friendly banter with a stranger, practicing your flirting skills via a chat line service is good fun. You can hone your flirty habits chatting to like-minded people via phone or text communication, and also pick up some new techniques along the way.
If you feel that your chat up lines and flirting style are outdated, or your skills are a little rusty, it’s easy to chat and date singles in your local area on a mobile dating service. Join for free and browse the member profiles to find interesting people to expand your social network. You can practice your flirting skills on live 1-2-1 conversations, 24 hours a day.

Make A Valentine’s Day Connection
Valentine’s Day is all about celebrating the wonderfully magical experience of love. And you don’t have to be in a relationship to enjoy it. It’s easy to connect with someone on the UK’s busiest chat line, and to explore the possibility of romance.
If you’re a little shy, you can maintain anonymity while chatting to men or women on the phone, from the comfort of your home. You can chat, flirt and engage in friendly conversation like you would if you were meeting someone on a blind date. If you sense there’s a spark of chemistry, and mutual interest, you can extend your conversation online, or via your mobile phone or SMS service long into the night.

If you do decide to take the plunge and meet in person, for a Valentine’s Day date to remember, it’s sensible to play it safe by arranging to meet in a public place. Unless you explore your connection, you’ll never know if the outrageous flirt you met on a mobile dating service is a one-off NSA encounter, or the love of your life.

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It’s Cuffing Season!

As the evenings are drawing in, we are entering what’s known as “cuffing season”, so called because it describes the desire to be “tied down” (or “cuffed”) that often arises in the colder months.

It’s the time of year when people have stopped going out quite so much and are staying indoors snuggled by the fire… alone. Cue a last-ditch attempt by singletons to find a romantic partner for the winter.

Cuffing Season officially starts in September when the weather starts to change, but it’s around now that people will be putting more effort in, in order to be coupled up for the colder months.

Shorter days can exacerbate feelings of loneliness, as well as the looming festivities of the Christmas and New Year period. It definitely is the worst time of year to be single, missing out on lots of cosy couples’ activities and romantic dates.

Just be careful of people saying they’re specifically looking for someone to snuggle up to this winter or specifying anything similar as this could mean that they aren’t looking for anything serious or long term. Often these relationships are over by the spring, as people want to be single in time for the summer.

Whether you are just looking for something for the winter months, or want something more long term, now is the time of year to give Chat2Date a go and chat to singles from all over the UK either on our great chat line or if you prefer to message then try our fantastic mobile dating.

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Rainy Summer Day Date Ideas


Couple on a date in a restaurant eating cake

The UK is having a very rainy summer this year so the usual summer date ideas like picnics in the park or long romantic walks in the countryside have to be set aside for the time being (nobody wants soggy sandwiches!).

What fun date ideas are there for when the rainy weather keeps you inside?

We’ve compiled a list to give you some inspiration, whether it’s your first or fiftieth date.


Book a table for lunch or dinner in a nice pub/restaurant.

If you want to treat yourselves and make it special, this is the classic date idea. Have a couple of drinks or pair it with some lovely food, it’s always a great date idea for whatever the weather.


Watch your favourite movies or binge your favourite TV shows together.

Spend a rainy day watching the things you both love! Show each other your favourite movie or TV show whilst snuggled on the sofa with your favourite snacks. It’s a great way to do something you both enjoy.


Cook and eat dinner together.

This can be a really romantic activity to do together. Share the tasks between you and cook your favourite meals. To make it extra special you could have 3 courses and enjoy a candlelit dinner just the two of you.


Go to a local museum or art gallery.

To incorporate a little culture into your date, visit a museum or art gallery for some historical subject matter to talk about. This is great especially if one of you is really passionate about something you’re going to see. Check the exhibitions and see if there’s anything you’d both like to visit.


Play your favourite games.

Whether you like console games, board games or card games, you can play together and show your competitive side! Show your date your favourite game to play, and challenge them to beat you. It’s a great opportunity to show something you’re passionate about, whilst having a lot of fun together.


So whether you want to go out and find an indoor activity, or stay indoors and stay dry, there’s plenty of ideas for you to get some inspiration from.

If you’d like to find that special someone to enjoy these activities with then try a phone chat with plenty of singles from around the UK who are chatting right now on the UK’s favourite chat line – Chat2Date!


Top 6 Red Flags To Look Out For When Dating

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Dating can be really difficult and it can be impossible to tell who is genuinely looking for a relationship and who is just looking for a hook up.

There are some often small tell-tale signs that someone isn’t really interested in you for you, so we’ve listed some red flags to look out for when you’re chatting to people.

They ask for your number immediately.

No one needs your number when you’re just chatting. Whether it’s on our text chat or one of our chat lines where you can quite easily communicate without revealing your number, there’s no reason for them to ask before you even really know each other.
We always advise not to give out your personal details including your phone number until you’re really comfortable.

They don’t take no for an answer.

Whether it’s asking for your number or asking you out, if they are too persistent or won’t take no for an answer, this is one of the quite big red flags.
Some of the most important things in a relationship are respect and boundaries and if someone doesn’t respect those from the start then there’s no real basis to build a friendship, let alone an intimate relationship with someone.

They only have one thing on their mind.

Yes, sex and intimacy are important in a relationship, but it’s not the most important thing. If someone immediately launches into anything like that… run!
You are more than just your looks. Someone you’re going to potentially spend your life with should like everything about you before intimacy is even on the table.

They aren’t open and honest with you.

Everyone has secrets. Everyone has things they’re not comfortable revealing. However, if they won’t tell you basic things, or things you feel are important in a relationship, it’s worth questioning why.
You need to set your own boundaries about what you’re comfortable with and there needs to be a discussion about what your expectations are.

Love bombing.

Be very aware of someone who showers you with love, affection, gifts, or extravagant things at the beginning of a relationship. You might not notice it at first, but if it’s over the top this can be “love bombing”. This is where they lure you in by making you think they’re really lovely and kind and generous, but once you’re in a more settled relationship with them, their behaviour changes and you might end up feeling stuck.
Of course, someone might just genuinely be very generous!

They don’t want you to meet their friends/family.

This is quite a big red flag as there’s no genuine reason why they wouldn’t want you to meet their friends and family if they’re actually wanting a relationship with you.
They should want everyone to meet you and you to meet everyone they love, as this is a big step into cementing your relationship with each other and within each other’s family.
It’s normal to not want to go in too early, because you want to make sure the person is going to stick around before you introduce them, but if you’re a while into a relationship and they keep making excuses, there’s something not right.

Always be cautious when dating new people, and always be alert for any of these red flags.
Always make sure you talk about things and set clear boundaries and be honest with each other from the start.

If you’re yet to meet someone, then get chatting on our chat and text lines as you never know when you might meet The One!


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Dating in Lockdown This Valentine’s Day

Woman sitting in cafe laughing whilst talking on mobile phone

Dating at any time can be a challenge, but during lockdown when you can’t actually meet up has made everything so much more difficult.

One good thing, however, is that it gives everyone ample opportunity to get to know each other better and gives you a better chance to see if you ‘click’.

You’ll get a chance to see if you have any chemistry. This isn’t always possible on dating apps or via message, but if you can talk for ages about all sorts of things, you’ll know your (eventual) date will be much more relaxed and less awkward.

It also means that you don’t have to spend all that time getting ready and choosing an outfit – they can’t see you! No travelling to the date, no forking out for drinks/food or any of that! Stay warm and comfortable indoors, whilst chatting to as many people as you like.

Giving out your personal details can always be a concern, which is why our chat lines are perfect…

Your number is never revealed, meaning you can stay anonymous for as long as you feel comfortable.

Whether you want to swap voice messages or chat on the phone, your phone number is always hidden. This gives you a chance to get to know someone a bit better whilst still keeping some privacy.

Then, once lockdown is over and we’re able to get back out and meet people again, you’ll have been chatting a while and feel much more comfortable before you meet.

Whilst you can’t meet up for dates at the moment, you can still chat on the phone with loads of singles every day, so don’t feel lonely this Valentine’s Day – get chatting to people in your area on Chat2Date!


New Year New Start: Chat With Singles On Your Mobile

2020 has been A Year. Dating has been completely different but it has still been possible.

New year, new start. If you’re looking for something new to try in 2021, if dating apps are getting boring swiping left and right, join our mobile dating for FREE!

We’ll send you text alerts when you have a new message from a single person in your area.

It could be your year to find love, and what better way to begin the search than trying something completely different?!

We have thousands of new guys and girls joining and messaging each other each week. The ultimate social network for local singles looking to meet new friends, chat or find a partner.

We also give you the option of chatting with singles in your area on our great chat line, so there’s something for everyone, however you want to get started.

Find love or simply chat with people from all over England, Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland. It’s modern dating on your mobile and you’ll have a lot of fun making connections with our lovely singles.

So if you’re thinking “new year new start”, register for FREE with our mobile dating today!

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Autumn Social Distancing Date Ideas

Man and woman smiling on date in restaurant with food and wine

Now that it’s autumn and the temperature is dropping it’s not as pleasant to go down the beach or sit in the park. So what options are there when you want to go on a date?

We’ve compiled a list of some autumn date ideas that will still take social distancing into consideration.

Book a table in a restaurant or pub

We can still eat inside places at the moment so if you’d like a traditional date where you can eat good food and get to know each other then this is still a possibility mostly – do check local area restrictions first!

Go for a walk

If the weather isn’t too bad, you can still go for a walk in a local park, in the countryside or along the seafront. Just make sure you wrap up warm! This is great if you’re not comfortable meeting in an indoor setting.

Go to a zoo or nature park

These are always great date ideas, but staying outside is a good way to keep yourself safe in these uncertain times. It gives you lots to talk about and can take up a nice chunk of time so you can really get to know each other all whilst doing something fun.

Go to a museum or art gallery

If you both enjoy history or art and are comfortable going inside, a museum or art gallery are great places for a date. There’s plenty to talk about and it’s a great way of talking about things you like and bonding over similar passions.

Video call

The safest option of all is a video call date. You still get to see each other but there’s no risk whatsoever. You can also have a glass of wine and be comfortable in your own home whilst getting to know each other.

So depending on what you’re most comfortable with, and what local or national restrictions allow, there are still plenty of date ideas for you to try.

If you’re still looking for that special someone, sign up with Chat2Date today!

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Phone Chat: Our Top 5 Tips For Dating On A Chatline

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Chatlines have been around for a long time and even with the introduction of online dating and dating apps, it’s stood the test of time.

Whether you’ve used a chat line before or not, our top 5 tips will help you get the most out of dating and phone chat and boost your chances of finding someone special.

  • Record a decent introduction for your voicemail box. You’re trying to get people to like the sound of you so make sure you highlight your best qualities! Phone chat should be natural and you should focus on what you like.
  • You can tell a lot from someone’s voice. You’re likely to get a reasonably good sense about who they are over the phone. It’s much easier to connect that written down messages. However, if something doesn’t feel right, don’t pursue it.
  • Be sensible about meeting up. If you decide you’re getting on well and would like to meet up, make sure it’s in a public place and you tell a friend where you’re going.
  • Don’t give out any personal information. When chatting to someone, don’t let them know personal details before you’re comfortable. Arrange to meet through the chat line (following the above tip) and then decide if you’d like to pass on your phone number etc.
  • Have fun! Dating isn’t supposed to be a chore, it should be enjoyable. Just be yourself and make the most of your time chatting to someone. This will help you find someone special

If you’d like to give it a go, join Chat2Date today and see who’s on the line!