What You Can Learn From Your Dating Failures


Every time that you experience a dating failure, it can feel like all of your flirting efforts and emotional investment were a total waste of time. But if you tweak your perspective, you will be able to see that every date that fails to blossom into an intimate connection – that grows into a full-on love relationship – is actually a blessing in disguise.

You can learn a surprising amount about yourself, your values and self-worth, from dating failures and failed relationships.

The Dating Journey

For most people, the journey of love begins with flirting with someone you fancy, and arranging a date. If all goes well, perhaps there’s another date, followed by many more…that lead to the start of a relationship.

Others though, may experience endless first dates that never seem to progress to a real connection or a budding relationship. Being stuck in a perpetual one-date cycle can certainly feel soul destroying, and make you question yourself. Courageously exploring what each romantic failure is teaching you is essential if you want to learn how to attract lasting love into your life.

On Chat2Date you can easily connect with like-minded singles all over the UK, and explore potential dating possibilities. You’ll be able to practice your flirting techniques and communication skills, in prep for taking the next steps on your dating journey.

Turn Dating Failure To Success

Before you can become successful at dating, you need to focus on your past failures, and to learn from your mistakes. Putting the blame on the other person – for not seeing how awesome you are, why you’re such a catch, or all of your unique qualities – isn’t going to result in you getting lucky on your next date. You need to examine what went wrong, and why the blossoming connection dissolved on the first date. To find the answers to these questions, you must look within.

You may be subconsciously giving out a message of emotional unavailability, or exercising negative self-beliefs. Maybe you’re bombarding your date with OTT attention and affection, or acting too casual and cool for your own good. Being too quick to get intimately physical, on a first meet, is also likely to end up as a dating disappointment.

Identify your core issue and mistakes, and take responsibility for not repeating the cycle again.

Spot Dating Red Flags

When you’re keen to form an emotional bond with someone, it’s important to pay attention to red flags. It’s easy to overlook things that can potentially become an issue down the line, when you’re wearing rose-tinted spectacles. If you notice a behaviour pattern that’s familiar to past experiences, pretending that it doesn’t exist is a guaranteed way to get caught up in yet another repetitive cycle that catapults you into heartbreak.

Learn from your past dating failures, and be prepared not to compromise on anything that you consider to be a deal-breaker. If you settle for less than you deserve, you will never be happy.

Level Up

Every dating failure gives you a chance to level up. Yes, rejection can be tough, but picking yourself up and learning from the experience will get you closer to finding your perfect love match.

To level up, you need to be honest with yourself and to understand your dating style, needs and wants:

Being too needy for love is detrimental to your dating success. While it’s good to have expectations when you go out on a first date, allowing your emotions to take the lead can end up with you playing out a fantasy relationship in your head.

To avoid making a dating mistake, be honest and upfront about your expectations. If they don’t match those of the person that you’re dating, it’s crucial that you accept the fact and move on to dating someone else.

Ditch the illusions and fake stories that you’ve previously told interested parties, to influence their desire for you. Letting go of being someone you’re not means that you can fully embody your unique personality, and the traits and qualities that make you special.

When you level up, you won’t want to be anything but your authenticate self. You also won’t want to date anyone who isn’t genuine and authentic, as you just won’t feel truly comfortable in their company.

Embrace Being Single

There’s nothing wrong with being single – for a while, or a long time. You don’t have to be lonely just because you’re on your own. Being single gives you an opportunity to explore your passions and personal interests, which is something that many people tend to forget about once they form a relationship.

Embrace being single and commit to dating yourself at least once a week. Spend quality time doing things that you love and that bring you joy. Overcome loneliness by chatting to singles on the popular Chat2Date social network. You never know… you could strike up a connection with someone who ends up being the love of your life.


5 Signs That Prove You’re Ready For A Relationship

A love relationship is a major commitment that impacts on your whole life. Are you ready for a relationship! It requires equal measures of putting in effort, good communication and compromise. If you’re single and thinking about taking the plunge into the dating pool, chatting and flirting with thousands of people just like you, on the UK’s favourite chat line, is a great place to start your search for your perfect love match.

As a 24/7 service, Chat2date connects singles all over the UK who want to practice communication skills and flirting techniques, and to arrange dates. You can send and receive messages, and pull someone on the phone! It’s a great place to socialise, and to contemplate swapping your single life for a romantic loving relationship.

  1. You’re Not Looking For Someone To ‘Complete’ You

You know you’re probably ready to end your single days when you feel content just as you are. You don’t need a romantic partner to be ‘complete’ you because you already have all the self-love that you require. Feel comfortable in your skin and have embraced your imperfections and flaws, and you love spending time in your own company. For you, a relationship offers an opportunity to share your love and world with someone wonderful who reciprocates.

If you’re deeply longing for a romantic partner as a means to escape loneliness, you’re not ready to make the commitment that a successful relationship requires. Chatting to like-minded singles on our private, discreet and totally anonymous phone chat service will fill your companionship void and prep you for potential romance when you’re ready.

  1. You’re Emotional Baggage Free

All adults that have dated, had a romantic relationship, or have been married or divorced will have emotional baggage as a souvenir of the experience. If you’re weighed down by insecurities, and lack self-confidence and/or self-esteem, you’re really not in the best shape to begin a new relationship.

It’s essential to leave your exes in the past, and to let go of thoughts of ‘what might have been’, if you want to find new love. You’ll also need to do the inner work, and to release emotional baggage. Once you’re free of the past you can move forwards towards dating and commitment.

  1. You Understand The Importance Of Give And Take

If you’ve been single for a while chances are that you’ve developed a few habits that could compromise a new love relationship. Be honest with yourself about how flexible you are with your time, energy and personal and social commitments. For a connection to blossom into a relationship, you need to get the balance right, and to build a strong foundation that is based on reciprocity and good communication.

It’s important to learn how to communicate effectively, and to express your feelings and emotions. If you have a protective wall around your heart, the emotions that are often openly expressed in a relationship will make you want to reinforce your barriers. Chatting and texting with other singles is an excellent way to practice give and take, and to gradually start taking down the wall around your heart, one brick at a time.

  1. Your Heart Is Open

Ask yourself how you feel about the prospect of sharing yourself and your life with someone else. If you’re ready to find love, your open heart will swell and open wider at the thought, and you’ll experience a pleasing warm sensation and excitement.

If the idea of a relationship makes you feel uncomfortable or uneasy, your heart will feel tight and small. It’s telling you that you have emotional baggage to dump before you can unlock it to be ready to love.

  1. You’re Happy And You Know It

The secret to relationship success is to be happy just as you are, right this moment, in your life. If you can find inner peace regardless of chaos going on around you, you’ve achieved the level of serenity and harmony that will benefit all of your relationships – both romantic and platonic.

Up your happy quota by chatting with friendly Chat2Date members and have fun flirting, dating and getting to know each other. The happier you feel, the closer you are to being totally ready for the love relationship of your dreams.