Top 6 Red Flags To Look Out For When Dating

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Dating can be really difficult and it can be impossible to tell who is genuinely looking for a relationship and who is just looking for a hook up.

There are some often small tell-tale signs that someone isn’t really interested in you for you, so we’ve listed some red flags to look out for when you’re chatting to people.

They ask for your number immediately.

No one needs your number when you’re just chatting. Whether it’s on our text chat or one of our chat lines where you can quite easily communicate without revealing your number, there’s no reason for them to ask before you even really know each other.
We always advise not to give out your personal details including your phone number until you’re really comfortable.

They don’t take no for an answer.

Whether it’s asking for your number or asking you out, if they are too persistent or won’t take no for an answer, this is one of the quite big red flags.
Some of the most important things in a relationship are respect and boundaries and if someone doesn’t respect those from the start then there’s no real basis to build a friendship, let alone an intimate relationship with someone.

They only have one thing on their mind.

Yes, sex and intimacy are important in a relationship, but it’s not the most important thing. If someone immediately launches into anything like that… run!
You are more than just your looks. Someone you’re going to potentially spend your life with should like everything about you before intimacy is even on the table.

They aren’t open and honest with you.

Everyone has secrets. Everyone has things they’re not comfortable revealing. However, if they won’t tell you basic things, or things you feel are important in a relationship, it’s worth questioning why.
You need to set your own boundaries about what you’re comfortable with and there needs to be a discussion about what your expectations are.

Love bombing.

Be very aware of someone who showers you with love, affection, gifts, or extravagant things at the beginning of a relationship. You might not notice it at first, but if it’s over the top this can be “love bombing”. This is where they lure you in by making you think they’re really lovely and kind and generous, but once you’re in a more settled relationship with them, their behaviour changes and you might end up feeling stuck.
Of course, someone might just genuinely be very generous!

They don’t want you to meet their friends/family.

This is quite a big red flag as there’s no genuine reason why they wouldn’t want you to meet their friends and family if they’re actually wanting a relationship with you.
They should want everyone to meet you and you to meet everyone they love, as this is a big step into cementing your relationship with each other and within each other’s family.
It’s normal to not want to go in too early, because you want to make sure the person is going to stick around before you introduce them, but if you’re a while into a relationship and they keep making excuses, there’s something not right.

Always be cautious when dating new people, and always be alert for any of these red flags.
Always make sure you talk about things and set clear boundaries and be honest with each other from the start.

If you’re yet to meet someone, then get chatting on our chat and text lines as you never know when you might meet The One!


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5 Killer Chat Up Lines That Work!

Finding it hard to chat to people? Need conversation openers? Sometimes all it takes is a killer chat up line! Sometimes they can be a great conversation starter, even if they only serve to make someone laugh. Here are our top 5 to get their attention.

Are you a camera? Because every time I look at you, I smile.

Do you have sunburn, or are you always this hot?

I seem to have lost my phone number. Can I have yours?

Are you a parking ticket? Because you’ve got fine written all over you.

I’m not a photographer, but I can picture me and you together.

Have a phone chat to singles from all over the UK today on Chat2Date and give some of these a try!

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Our Top Ten Topics To Fill Those Awkward Silences

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Apprehensive about avoiding those awkward silences when chatting to someone for the first time?

Worry no more! Here are our top ten topics to help start a conversation to hopefully find some shared interests and maybe even get a date!

Find out if they like travelling and where they have been – you might have been to the same places or they might have been somewhere you want to visit or vice versa!

If you both have pets this is always a good topic of conversation and you’ll never run out of things to say!

Talking about family can be good for many reasons as you can get to know a person better when they’re talking about the people they love and are close to.

Everyone loves food! Talk about your favourite restaurants or what you like cooking.

You don’t have to play sports to talk about them but you do have to watch them! If there is a sport that you both enjoy playing or watching then this is a great topic to chat about.

We spend most of our time at work so there’s sure to be a lot to discuss, whether it be what you do for work, your colleagues or what you do on your lunch break!

Hobbies are things that you love to do so are sure to show off your best side and your personality and will give you an insight into your date’s social life.

Whether you like the same music and can share stories of gigs/concerts you’ve been to or whether your tastes are totally different this is a subject that could be talked about for hours!

Everyone loves a good movie! Whether you agree on which movies you love and which you don’t, there are plenty of genres to cover!

Bucket List
This is what you want to achieve in your life. Be it swimming with dolphins or going into space! This will give you a chance to get to know your date based on things they like and how adventurous they are!

Only talk about things you and your date feel comfortable with – if you sense they aren’t engaging then switch to talking about something totally different – there’s no need to feel awkward.

You can get chatting with real singles on Chat2Date – The UK’s busiest chat line.