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Stay Safe When Meeting Someone from a Chatline

Chatlines are one of the most popular ways to meet people nowadays. To ensure you keep yourself safe when you chat, we’ve shared some of our tips below.

Always trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, trust your gut feeling. If someone is asking too many questions or asking things you aren’t comfortable with then tell them.

If someone immediately asks for your contact details or wants to meet before you’ve decided whether you might like them, this can be a red flag – if you’re not comfortable with it then don’t meet them, or tell them you would like to get to know them a little better first. If they agree then maybe they’re just a little keen, if they get aggressive or upset that you won’t then you already know you made the right decision.

If they ask you for money or want you to buy them something, they are unlikely to be genuine and just want something from you, especially if you’ve never met.

It sounds obvious but never send anyone money. It’s so easy to get caught up in the moment and feel like you trust someone and have a connection but always use caution when people have unusual requests.

Be cautious sending out personal information. When you’re getting to know someone, sometimes you talk about things you wouldn’t necessarily talk about with your friends. Be aware of how much detail you’re telling someone you don’t really know.

It sounds obvious but never share your bank details, card numbers, passport or ID details with anyone and be aware that if they are asking about family history and ask for your mother’s maiden name or the name of your first pet – scammers can use this information against you.

Try not to drag out how long you’re talking before you meet.

You can only get to know someone so much over the phone. Once you feel comfortable talking to them, arrange to meet in a busy public place and let people know where you are going.

On the other hand, you are also under no obligation to meet them, regardless of how long you’ve been chatting. If you feel they are puttin you under any sort of pressure to do so, it might be best to move on.

Scammers are unlikely to meet up with you in real life and meeting is a great way to find out if there is a spark between you and you want to continue getting to know them.

When you do arrange to meet them, make sure you meet in a busy, public place and don’t accept a lift. There’s no need to put yourself at any risk.

If your date offers to pick you up, you can politely decline. If they are genuine they will understand your reasons. Never tell your address to someone you’ve only just met and don’t know very well.

Don’t drink too much when you’re on a date, especially  first date. Drinking can lower inhibitions and impair your judgement. You want to be on full alert when meeting someone for the first time and also want to set a good first impression!

Never be afraid to leave if you feel uncomfortable. You don’t owe your date anything and your safety is more important than anything else.

Never take your date back to your place or accept an invitation back to theirs. You need to get to know them and build up trust before letting them into your home or being alone with them.

Stay safe when dating with Chat2Date and report any suspicious behaviour.

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Get The Most Out Of Your First Phone Call Together

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You’ve listened to each other’s voicemail messages on Chat2Date but you now want to have a proper chat.
Talking on the phone for the first time can be daunting and the first impression you make is very important.
Here are our top tips to help you through that first phone call and ensure you secure that first date!

Be cheerful and chatty. Remember the other person can’t see your face and they only have the tone of your voice to go by so make sure you sound interested.

Don’t give short answers. Make sure you always elaborate on any answers you give and if you can, turn your answer into a question for them! Keep the conversation flowing and use open ended questions so they have a chance to give better answers.

Remember that this isn’t an interview. There are no right and wrong answers to their questions – just be yourself and be relaxed. Don’t interrogate them either – you don’t need to find out everything about them in this one conversation – leave some things for your first date!

Give the person your full attention. Don’t make it sound like you’re doing something else like watching TV or on your computer. Be interested in what they have to say and respond appropriately.

If the conversation is gradually slowing, let it naturally come to an end. Don’t force it or ask questions for the sake of it.

Lastly and most importantly – always be yourself!

So now you’re ready, what are you waiting for?! Get chatting to singles near you today with Chat2Date!