There are many reasons why some people find love to be elusive and ask why am I still single. You may be successful at work, have a great social life, be surrounded by nurturing and supportive family and friends, but have no one special to share everything with. Or perhaps you’ve been single for a long while because you can’t heal a broken heart, even if all of your friends keep telling you that you’re quite the catch and there’s plenty more fish in the sea!
If you’re tired of going solo, dare yourself to get out of your comfort zone and connect with friendly guys and girls on Chat2Date. The UK’s busiest phone chat line is where you can virtually meet people who are keen to practice their flirting skills, and also click with someone who is on your wavelength. There’s no pressure to meet in person or plan a date, unless of course you want to.
To be ready to take action on transforming your life from single to happily coupled up, it’s essential that you remove the 3 main obstacles that have been blocking your path to love…
You haven’t dumped your baggage
Too many people fall in and out of love, without paying any attention to what the relationship was trying to teach them. Every romantic connection that you make offers the potential for you to improve your self-esteem, let go of limiting beliefs and heal issues from the past.
When a relationship falls apart, it’s easy to pretend everything is fine and to simply move on to the next lover. Few folks willingly choose to put love on hold so that they can do the inner work that’s required to grow and evolve into a better, baggage-free person.
Take full advantage of your singledom, and focus on yourself for a while. Make your emotional issues a top priority. Explore the repetitive cycles of past relationships and the negative patterns of behaviour that always achieved the same poor results.
Dig deep to resolve long-standing trauma, and release heartache. You may find it helpful to consult a professional who deals with emotional stuff, or to have heart-to-heart conversations with people that you trust.
Being baggage-free means that you no longer have to put up the invisible protective shield around your heart that blocks the arrows of love. Instead you’ll be able to attract a meaningful connection that can blossom into budding romance.
You’re overly picky
Being overly picky and having a romantic partner checklist is guaranteed to keep you single. While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with knowing exactly what you want, and don’t want in a relationship, defining your ultimate partner limits your chances of getting lucky and finding Mr. or Ms. Right.
Instead of writing out a list of ideal lover ‘type’ details (height, physical appearance and personality traits), concentrate your efforts on how you would like your future committed partner to make you ‘feel’. Close your eyes and imagine yourself on a hot date with someone special… How do you feel when they smile at you, when they hold your hand, and when they tell you that you’re amazing?
Allow that heart-warming, exciting and intoxicating feel-good vibe to be your guide when you’re exploring the world of dating.
You’re trying too hard
Even though you may be emotional baggage-free, and you don’t have a ‘type’ checklist, it doesn’t necessarily mean that your single days are now numbered. If you’re someone who has a habit of trying too hard, you’ll continue to keep love away.
Overachievers, control freaks, and people who care too much about what others think, often find it challenging to change old routines and practices. If you want to say goodbye to the days of being single, it’s vital that you release all expectations.
Learn to view dating as a fun activity that can teach you a lot about yourself. Chat and flirt with interesting individuals on Chat2Date, and exercise your seduction techniques. Go with the flow and allow a connection to organically grow, instead of pushing it and trying to mould it into your dream relationship on the first date. Relax and enjoy every moment of getting to know someone new, and discovering things about yourself in the process.
Having healthy boundaries and high standards in love is a must, but so too is being the perfect match for the one you want to attract. Relax, have fun, and know that you’ll manifest your ultimate lover when you’re naturally aligned with them.